My husband of 48 years is really sweet, kind and easy to get along with. However, there are times when he drives me to distraction. I spend a lot of my time putting things away after he’s left them out and finishing chores he only half does. For most of our married life I’ve said nothing but as I’ve grown older, I have become more irritable and more vocal about this. The last straw came today when I went into the bathroom cabinet for some nail scissors. Our bathroom cabinet is directly above our toilet and as I reached in for the scissors, they caught on a nail file and both came tumbling out. As the toilet seat had been left up again by my husband, the scissors and the nail file fell straight into the toilet bowl. My first instinct was to shout at him but then I had another thought. I had noticed the seat was up when I went into the cabinet for the nail scissors, so it was also my fault for being in such a rush as usual and not lowering the seat before I went into the cabinet. I am always in a rush tidying and putting things away.
Then I thought about all the things that irritate me and realised, it’s not my husband’s actions–or lack of them–that causes my temper to rise, it’s my wish for certain standards. It is me who needs to change, not my husband. I need to realise that it doesn’t matter if a few things are left out that we’ll probably use again soon?
It has taken me far too long to come to this realisation. I’ve wasted so much time being too particular over things that don’t really matter. Are you really house-proud and forever cleaning? I would be interested in hearing your views on this post.